We Indians often face criticism for not being open about certain topics — sex being one of them. That said, this blog isn't going to be "adult content" in the way you might assume. Let's keep the jokes aside and talk about something that deeply concerns our society: exploitation and violence against women.
I want to be clear — I'm not a self-proclaimed "feminist" in the social media sense, nor someone who exaggerates for clout. I'm just a human trying to address a real issue from a thoughtful perspective.
Lessons from Nature
If you've ever observed nature, you might have noticed how, in some species, male animals chase or even forcibly mate with females. It happens in mammals, birds, insects, and even fish. This phenomenon — called forced copulation — is nature's brutal way of ensuring reproduction. Often, the females bear the burden of this process, physically and emotionally (in species capable of emotion).
But that's not the only way reproduction happens in the wild. Many species — especially birds — follow a different approach: seduction. Males perform elaborate dances, show off vibrant feathers, sing, or build nests to impress the female. The peacock's dance, for example, is not just a spectacle — it's a sincere attempt to win a mate's attention and approval. If the peahen isn't impressed, the peacock must try again.
There's a lesson there for us human males — earning affection with respect, not force, is a universal truth.
Coercion vs. Consent: Why the Shift?
So, when does coercion enter the picture?
In the animal kingdom, it's often when males lack access to females or fear being left out of the gene pool. Sometimes, it's about asserting dominance — a way to subjugate rather than connect. It's primal, it's brutal, and it's rooted in instinct.
But we're human. We're supposed to be better. We're intellectual beings with the power to think, reflect, and empathise.
Then why do heinous acts like rape still happen?
The Human Failure
Unlike in the wild, rape in human society isn't about survival or instinct. It's often about power, control, and sadistic pleasure. It's a sign not of strength, but of moral collapse. These crimes are not just about lust — they're fueled by a lack of empathy, ethical upbringing, and emotional deprivation.
The suffering of survivors goes far beyond the act itself. Their trauma seeps into their identity, relationships, and sense of safety. The physical and psychological scars can last a lifetime. And yet, many perpetrators walk free or face minimal consequences.
Yes, we've seen some awareness grow over time, but justice is still slow. Social stigma still silences victims. Cultural taboos still prevent open discussions.
This needs to change.
A Higher Perspective
In ancient Indian traditions, sex was never seen as dirty or shameful. It was revered as a sacred, life-giving act. The union of two souls — physically, emotionally, and spiritually — was celebrated in texts like the Kama Sutra. Sadly, we've reduced that once-respected perspective to taboo and shame.
One of my favourite quotes comes from Shakira:
"Freedom is more than a state of mind. It relates to many different parts of our lives — not only sexual pleasure. But sex is the origin of life, the ultimate human expression."
That's powerful — and true.
Final Thoughts
Violence against women is not just a women's issue — it's a human one. We must stop normalising, ignoring, or brushing it under the rug. We must start conversations that matter. We must teach boys to respect, not dominate. We must create a society where love, consent, and dignity are not optional — but essential.